Foolish Pride

In general, pride is at the bottom of all great mistakes.

Great mistakes hurt . . .

John Ruskin, True and Beautiful, Morals and Religion

From the beginning of a child’s life, the usual lessons involve daily (hopefully) training in making right choices. Baby wants to touch the hot stove burner, a hard tap on the hand could teach baby, pain comes with this choice. As the child grows up, mistakes discovered are usually followed by either painful or at least discomforting consequences. So, who likes to feel pain or discomfort? In my world it’s usually 99.99% of humans, including me, who shrink from yucky consequences.

Okay, one can see what a painful mistake touching a hot stove could be but what about the spouse caught cheating in a marriage and finds it difficult to admit the truth? The choice in admitting infidelity does include painful consequences such as the break up of a family, loss of custody of children involved (if applicable) and most of all, standing at a crossroad and deciding whether to choose to cover up the mistake or admit the mistake and be labelled a total:

Magnified

forgiveness can heal a fool

Can the physical pain of adultery be the same as a baby touching a hot stove? With the hot stove, there are actual physical burns the baby suffers so , admitting to the mistake would most likely be easier. With affairs, blatant physical markings, (excluding STD’s that mark you guilty instantly) are usually not obvious so it can easily be justified with the it-feels-one-hundred-percent-the-correct-thing-to-do. I mean it is no mistake honey, you see, this person completes me. Like, totally. I found my soul mate!

Soul mate or not, it’s still a great mistake!

Just admit it!

John Ruskin’s quote rings true that pride, the satisfaction with self: the happy satisfied feeling somebody experiences when having or achieving something special that other people admire, and not wanting to be labeled a total LOSER, makes admitting to most mistakes, very difficult.

Faith and Failure

In time, God would prefer forgiveness . . . Surround us in love so we may easily forgive the great mistakes we make onto to others or receive in our lifetime. Amen.

A difficult subject to discuss, marital affairs, but lately a very common occurrence not only with the rich and famous, but right here in our backyards. Dropping the pride and admitting the wrong, not only saves valuable time that can use used in the healing but makes forgiveness a lot easier.

Be a blessing and a good cheer neighbor,

Sunshine xoxo

Photo, quote and word definition credits: Wikipedia, Wikiquote and  Encarta World English Dictionary on pride.

Inspiration: Daily WP #338: Why is it hard to admit to a mistake?

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8 thoughts on “Foolish Pride

  1. Warrior Poet Wisdom says:

    A great post, and opens up a lot of opportunities for thought. Yes, ego is our greatest nemesis. A shame that the few who are able to recognize the ego (pride) for what it is and are able to admit and apologize for their mistakes are sometimes met with distrust and unwillingness to forgive. It’s ego and pride on the other side in that case. Every situation is different, and yes, there are exceptions to everything, but I’m sure there have been many who were genuinely remorseful for what they did, be it infidelity, deception, or any other form of selfishness, and were not granted forgiveness because the other person didn’t have the courage to swallow their pride and check their ego too. An interesting thought, how ego not only keeps us from admitting to wrong doing, but also keeps us from forgiving it and moving forward, all in its endless, selfish search for comfort and safety. I say f**k comfort. It never once did me any good. I own up to my transgressions, and I forgive those with the courage to own up to theirs. The ones who cannot forgive reveal a little about themselves, perhaps why they were “transgressed” upon in the first place.

    Peace & grace,
    ~Miro

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    • Sunshine says:

      Amazing life forms we humans are . . . and yes, I agree that in general, we constantly search for comfort and safety because it’s the easiest path. Who wants to suffer pain and discomfort. Some people like Mother Teresa or the Leper priest, Father Damien of Molokai, gave humanity an example of what it takes to master the ego but ouch! what a life it took to master it. Thank you, (bowing to you) for sharing your profound thoughts and peace and grace to you too Miro.

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    • Sunshine says:

      Ah, yes, jealousy . . . what conversations we could have with that topic!
      I think if we take pride in doing the best we can in creative endeavors rather than pride for destructive matters, enlightenment may be achieved in ones lifetime. Just my thoughts on that.
      Thanks for coming by 🙂 . . . much appreciated!

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