In general, pride is at the bottom of all great mistakes.
John Ruskin, True and Beautiful, Morals and Religion
From the beginning of a child’s life, the usual lessons involve daily (hopefully) training in making right choices. Baby wants to touch the hot stove burner, a hard tap on the hand could teach baby, pain comes with this choice. As the child grows up, mistakes discovered are usually followed by either painful or at least discomforting consequences. So, who likes to feel pain or discomfort? In my world it’s usually 99.99% of humans, including me, who shrink from yucky consequences.
Okay, one can see what a painful mistake touching a hot stove could be but what about the spouse caught cheating in a marriage and finds it difficult to admit the truth? The choice in admitting infidelity does include painful consequences such as the break up of a family, loss of custody of children involved (if applicable) and most of all, standing at a crossroad and deciding whether to choose to cover up the mistake or admit the mistake and be labelled a total:
Can the physical pain of adultery be the same as a baby touching a hot stove? With the hot stove, there are actual physical burns the baby suffers so , admitting to the mistake would most likely be easier. With affairs, blatant physical markings, (excluding STD’s that mark you guilty instantly) are usually not obvious so it can easily be justified with the it-feels-one-hundred-percent-the-correct-thing-to-do. I mean it is no mistake honey, you see, this person completes me. Like, totally. I found my soul mate!
Soul mate or not, it’s still a great mistake!
Just admit it!
John Ruskin’s quote rings true that pride, the satisfaction with self: the happy satisfied feeling somebody experiences when having or achieving something special that other people admire, and not wanting to be labeled a total LOSER, makes admitting to most mistakes, very difficult.
A difficult subject to discuss, marital affairs, but lately a very common occurrence not only with the rich and famous, but right here in our backyards. Dropping the pride and admitting the wrong, not only saves valuable time that can use used in the healing but makes forgiveness a lot easier.
Be a blessing and a good cheer neighbor,
Photo, quote and word definition credits: Wikipedia, Wikiquote and Encarta World English Dictionary on pride.
Inspiration: Daily WP #338: Why is it hard to admit to a mistake?
- Are You A Proud Person or Too Proud? (shareyourlovestory.wordpress.com)
- Forgiveness… (modnmindful.wordpress.com)
- Embracing My Tears… (justsaynototoxicrelationships.wordpress.com)