Waiting for Love…the Greatest Terror

The Greatest terror a child can have is that he is not loved, and rejection is the hell of fears…… And, with rejection comes anger, and with anger some kind of crime in revenge for the rejection, and with crime, guilt – and there is the story of humankind.
John Steinbeck, East of Eden, 1952

 

According to Marci McCoy-Roth, in her article, Waiting to be Adopted,

….approximately 115,000 children in our nation’s foster care system will go to sleep still waiting for an adoptive family.  These children have been removed from home because of abuse or neglect. Their parents’ rights have been terminated, which in child welfare-speak means the children are available to be adopted.  And yet, they still wait.
These children spend nearly three years on average waiting to be adopted. That’s three birthdays, and a dozen major holidays spent in a temporary and often uncertain state, not knowing when or if anyone will ever “choose” them for their family. And, unfortunately, many children never get that chance.  Approximately 29,000 will leave the system at about 18 years of age without a safe family they can count on to help them navigate early adulthood and beyond.
The Greatest terror a child can have is that he is not loved

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19 thoughts on “Waiting for Love…the Greatest Terror

    • Sunshine says:

      Hi Patti,
      I am hoping that more loving families will reach out and adopt those children (especially the older hard to place) out of the foster care system. It’s a sacrifice but worth it when it’s a life one saves.
      Happy you stopped in for a visit Patti. Thanks!

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  1. Maggie L R says:

    Your post is the best for waiting. Thought provoking. I so often am so wrapped up in my own world with its stress and joy that I forget that I am not alone on this planet. I thank you for the reminder that we all need love and have love to give.

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    • Sunshine says:

      Hello Maggie,
      It breaks a heart to think a child has to wait for someone to love them.

      Thank you for your thought…”we all need love and have love to give.”

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    • Sunshine says:

      For all the children waiting for a permanent family…
      instead of waiting anxiously outside a window, let love open the door and shelter and nurture them.
      Thanks munchow….appreciate your thoughts.

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  2. RVingGirl says:

    What a thought provoking post, Charming.
    It is so sad and heartbreaking to know how so many children are neglected and forgotten. A social worker here also told me about “weekend” children…that is where parents drop their kids off at a children’s home for the weekend, saying.they can NOT cope, only for the staff to learn, they wanted a weekend to fly away to shop or go to Vegas to gamble and had no babysitter. Of course, they would not let it happen again but it has happened with many different people. Or the cases where the parents promise to collect their kids for a weekend but then never show up.
    Too too sad!
    Shame on them! Shame on us for not reaching out more.
    Terrific post and a vital topic!

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    • Sunshine says:

      Another great tragedy…weekend children. This is the first I have heard about this but I can believe it.

      First step is awareness, second spread the word and generate ideas on how to remedy the tragedy and third, action.

      Nothing is too small when it comes to helping someone find love and safety in a permanent family.
      Thanks RVingGirl!

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    • Sunshine says:

      You are so right Elizabeth…and when friends are contemplating a foreign adoption, I sometime (kindly) give my 2 cent opinion and suggest they look into America’s overpopulated foster care department. It’s a challenge but worth every effort. It’s amazing what transformation an abandoned child can go through within a loving permanent family.

      I appreciate you taking time from your busy schedule to pop on over for a visit and chat! Thank you!

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